How to make bad relationships good

And achieve a whole lot more

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Wouldn’t it be brilliant if we could transform some of our bad relationships to good ones?

Of course, no one has all the answers to this most difficult life challenge and least of all me but . . .

The ideas in this book offer real hope.

And even if you don’t manage to repair a particular relationship that concerns you – you’ll still gain a lot from this book for the future.

What it shows, very clearly, is that we can gain from our difficult life experiences -to change our lives for the better.

The power of TED (the empowerment dynamic) is a book by David Emerald.


And it has a simple but truly powerful idea at it’s core.

It turns the ‘drama triangle’ upside down

What’s the drama triangle?

Well, it’s a model of human behaviour – developed by Dr Stephen Karpman in the 1960s.

And it’s a fascinating model that’s still used today in what psychotherapists call ‘transactional analysis’ (that’s where they analyse how we operate with others in our life)

The drama triangle describes the unhappy relationship dynamic between people playing one of three roles (Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor)

Most of us ‘slip’ into one or more of those roles at some point in our lives.

And we can operate in different (drama triangle) roles with different groups of people at different times.

The trouble with the ‘drama triangle’ is that there’s no good role to play. They’re all a bit destructive and sad 🙁

And that’s why TED (acknowledged by Karpman) is so empowering.

It shows us how we can convert these ‘sad’ roles into something more positive and powerful 🙂

It shows us how our lives can be significantly improved if we can just:

1. Cast off our ‘victim’ orientation to become the ‘creator’ of our own futures.
2. Convert our ‘persecutors’ into ‘positive challengers’ and
3. Say goodbye to our ‘rescuers’ and find valuable ‘coaches’ instead

Now, let me be very clear on one point . . .

I’m no expert on relationship challenges and I’m not a psychotherapist either . . .

But I do know people who are – and they like this TED model too.

Of course, there’s a great deal more to TED than I’ve outlined here – and the story telling style in this book is wonderful too.

So be sure to grab a copy of it and try out some of the ideas inside.

You can find it  – alongside some of my other favourite books right here

You might also like to head over to the ‘power or TED’ website too. 

They’re normally running some kind of offer over there

And please take care out there.


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