How to make bad relationships good

And achieve a whole lot more

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Wouldn’t it be brilliant if we could transform some of our bad relationships to good ones?

Of course, no one has all the answers to this most difficult life challenge and least of all me but …

… the ideas in this book offer real hope

The Power or TED (the empowerment dynamic)

To be clear, I’m not suggesting that this book can repair every bad relationship – sometimes we just have to let people go.

But the ideas here can certainly help you use difficult life experiences to change your life for the better.

The power of TED (the empowerment dynamic) is a book by David Emerald.


And it has a simple but truly powerful idea at it’s core.

It turns the ‘drama triangle’ upside down

What’s the drama triangle?

Well, it’s a model of human behaviour – developed by Dr Stephen Karpman in the 1960s.

And it’s a fascinating model that’s still used today in what psychotherapists call ‘transactional analysis’ (that’s where they analyse how we operate with others in our life)

The drama triangle describes the unhappy relationship dynamic between people playing one of three roles (Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor)

Most of us ‘slip’ into one or more of those roles at some point in our lives.

And we can operate in different (drama triangle) roles with different groups of people at different times.

The trouble with the ‘drama triangle’ is that there’s no good role to play. 

They’re all a bit destructive and sad 🙁

And that’s why TED (acknowledged by Karpman) is so empowering.

It shows us how we can convert these ‘sad’ roles into something more positive and powerful 🙂

It shows us how our lives can be significantly improved if we can just:

1. Cast off our ‘victim’ orientation to become the ‘creator’ of our own futures.
2. Convert our ‘persecutors’ into ‘positive challengers’ and
3. Say goodbye to our ‘rescuers’ and find valuable ‘coaches’ instead

TED is grounded in solid science – but easy reading too

Now, I’m no expert on relationship challenges and I’m not a psychiatrist or psychotherapist either . . .

But I do know people who are – and they like this TED model too.

Of course, there’s a great deal more to TED than I’ve outlined here and the storytelling style of this book is wonderful too.

So be sure to grab a copy of it and try out some of the ideas inside.

You can find it  – alongside some of my other favourite books right here

You might also like to head over to the ‘power or TED’ website too. 

They’re normally running some kind of offer over there

And have a good day


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