How to make bad relationships good
And achieve a whole lot more
Wouldn’t it be brilliant if we could transform some of our most important, but bad relationships to good ones?
Of course, no one has all the answers to this most difficult life challenge and least of all me but … the ideas in this book offer real hope
The Power or TED (the empowerment dynamic)
To be clear, I’m not suggesting that this book can repair every bad relationship – sometimes we just have to let people go.
However, the ideas here can certainly help you use difficult life experiences to change your life for the better.
‘The power of TED, the empowerment dynamic’ is a book by David Emerald – with a simple but truly powerful idea at it’s core.
It turns the ‘drama triangle’ upside down
What’s the drama triangle?
Well, it’s a model of human behaviour – developed by Dr Stephen Karpman in the 1960s. And it’s still used today in what psychotherapists call ‘transactional analysis’ (or looking at how we operate with others in our life)
The drama triangle describes the unhappy relationship dynamic between people playing one of three roles (Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor) – and how most of us can ‘slip’ into one or more of those roles at some point in our lives.
We might even operate in different (drama triangle) roles with different groups of people at different times.
The trouble with the ‘drama triangle’ is that there’s no good role to play – they’re all a bit destructive and sad…
… and that’s why The Empowerment Dynamic idea – which has been acknowledged by Karpman – is so empowering.
It shows us how we can convert these ‘sad’ roles into something more positive and powerful 🙂
And shows us how our lives can be significantly improved if we can just:
1. Cast off our victim orientation to become the creator of our own futures.
2. Convert our persecutors into positive challengers and
3. Say goodbye to our rescuers and find valuable coaches instead
Now, I’m no expert on relationship challenges and I’m not a psychiatrist or psychotherapist either, but I know people who are – and they really like this TED model too.
Of course, there’s a great deal more to TED than I’ve outlined here and the storytelling style of the TED book is wonderful too.
So be sure to grab a copy of it and try out some of the ideas inside.
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